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What Happens in Couple Counseling?
Break the Loops, Meet the Needs, & Build on Your Strengths!
Dr. Weld will want to know about your struggles and victories. He’ll ask if you have any questions about him. Then he’ll want to look at issues you’re facing and will begin equipping you to have good dialogue about these issues. He’ll teach you many techniques to repair broken communication. He’ll help you to break the “loops” or subtle power struggles.
For example, he’ll help you to “turn complaints into requests” and to find out the meaning of what people say and do (“What did you mean by that?” or “What did you think I meant by that?”). These are examples of many basic communication skills that everyone can learn and improve upon.
Also, if you’re doing anything “right,” such as having an occasional date or listening to each other in session without interruption, he’ll want you to notice the positive. It’s good to find out whenever you’re “having the solution,” rather than the “problem,” and then simply have it more often!
Because negative marriage patterns are symptoms of deeper issues, Dr. Weld will want to explore what needs aren’t being met in the marriage, as well has what needs you may be good at meeting. After a couple of sessions, he’ll give each of you a simple “assessment” to discover your top three intimacy needs. He enjoys helping couples get on the same team and “hold a crown” over each other’s head, looking for the good motives and thinking the best of each other. Every couple has strengths to build on. They just haven’t noticed them or haven’t built on them enough. To whatever degree your relationship with God is a strength, he will want to help you capitalize on this strength and foster its growth.
What Happens in Individual Counseling?
Rewire Your Brain with New Decisions, Thoughts, and Strengthen Relationships!
As with couple counseling, Dr. Weld highly values his relationship with you. He’ll want to learn about you and your strengths. He’ll come along side of you as God allows times of trials and uncertainties in your life.
Dr. Weld will be interested in your family background, your thought life that produces your emotions, your health, support system, and medications that you may be taking. He may also help you to understand your early childhood decisions that enabled your survival. You may want to change some of these decisions and practice acting on them in order to truly rewire your brain. Old decisions that are negative probably enabled your survival as a child, but as an adult, these old decisions don’t work anymore!
Dr. Weld will often give realistic homework assignments and design a treatment plan with your input. And for those who value spirituality, he’ll also encourage the further development of your relationship with God and help you to expand your spiritual sensitivity as a strength for change.
What Happens in All Counseling
In all counseling, Dr. Weld accepts people where they’re at and wants to help you to meet your stated goals. He values being “warm and human first; professional, always.”
If a medical or psychiatric referral is in order, he has a broad referral network. If you are referred to one of these other professionals, Dr. Weld will likely still do the counseling with input from the other professional(s).
To whatever degree faith in God is a part of your life, Dr. Weld will encourage you to develop and exercise your faith (whether it’s small or large!), which will usually help to speed you toward your goals.
One More Thing!
Prayer, God’s Word & Common Sense
Dr. Weld believes that prayer and the word of God are our most powerful tools for change. Therefore, he integrates prayer and scripture, as appropriate for different clients. Dr. Weld integrates common sense principles and techniques of many different secular counseling models, as needed. He’s discovered that anything that works is either mentioned or illustrated in the bible, believing that God gives both wisdom and common sense (Job 39:17). He’s taught these biblical principles to some of the secular counseling classes that he’s completed in graduate school. Classmates of various faiths were excited to see that so much of what they were learning is in the bible! He’s also trained over 250 lay counselors in basic counseling principles and techniques (although state law now prohibits a non-licensed counselor from referring to him/her self as a “counselor”).